Ever since I can remember, I’ve been trying to find my path. I’ve been going through life on this journey hoping that someday my path would open up before me. Bam, there it is. The path I need to take to live happily ever after.
We’re all searching for our paths in one way or another. We want that clear trail leading us to exactly what will give us fulfillment. We don’t want to deal with the guess work, the heartache, and the disappointments. We just want to know what it is that we are supposed to be doing, so that we can go do it.
We watch those around us get married, announce new jobs, and find the people that they choose to spend the rest of their lives with. We listen to stories of those older than us, about when they got on their paths, and when they found their way. Then we take a look at our own lives and wonder where our path is hiding.
When I was in middle school, my path was to get the HELL OUT of that terrible experience and move on to high school, where I was sure life had to improve. When I made it to high school, the path was all about fitting in. It was about becoming one of the cool kids and relishing the feeling when I finally made it to the top. And then my best friend died, and my path became all about survival. Getting through one day to the next until I could get out of high school and be ready for the rest of my life. But when I got out of high school, my path was to graduate from college. And when I accomplished that, my path had seemingly come to an end. Ultimately, I was always on the path to the rest of my life. But once I found myself at a crossroads, I realized the path that I had dreamt of following was not as glamorous as it seemed.
It’s hard when you find yourself at a crossroads. Maybe you’re in your twenties and you have the whole world at your fingertips, but feel incredibly lost. Or maybe you’re in your forties and feel lost, pulled in several directions, not knowing which path to take. Or maybe you’re on a path previously chosen, realizing that it’s not at all what you imagined it to be.
Your family pulls you one way, your friends pull you another. You choose paths based on what will make your family happy, what makes your friends happiest, and what makes your boyfriend or girlfriend feel at peace. You choose paths based on societal expectations, and sometimes what sounds best when said aloud. But at what point do you choose the path based on what you want?
What’s best for others, is not what’s best for you. And what was best for you, may not always remain that way.
We don’t have control over most of the things that happen to us in life. But the thing is, we always have control on where we choose to go from there.
At any point in your life, you have the power to say f*ck this path laid out for me, I’m going to find my own way.
Because honestly, if the paths you see before you are perfectly clear, you’re probably following the wrong ones anyway.
So here’s to you, to me, to all of us…to finding our own paths. May you always choose the path that seems the hardest.
And if that doesn’t work out, just create your own path and never look back.