How many times have you found yourself disappointed before, during, or after a date? I should use the term “date” loosely as it seems to me dates are comparable to a new Harry Potter book being published: only in my dreams.
I hear people say that chivalry is dead. The idea of doors being opened on dates, long phone conversations, and getting to know one another before jumping into bed- well, these days are over. But why? Is it because of the invention of social media? These mediums that allow us to contact in a myriad of different ways- what’s a phone call or face-to-face conversation really worth? Or is it because we find ourselves so consumed in our own problems that we can’t possibly imagine sparing the time to involve someone else’s as well? Or maybe it’s because we live such fast paced lives as millennials that we have no more energy to put into a relationship at the end of the workweek?
No…Chivalry is dead because we destroyed it. We destroyed it when we stopped demanding respect from the people we choose to associate ourselves with. We destroyed it when we lowered our expectations so far that sending a text message on an anniversary is now considered sweet. And we destroyed it when we allowed someone to go weeks without communication with us and come back into our lives so easily with the excuse of “I was busy.”
If you want someone to open the door for you, make time for you on the weeknights, introduce you to their family, and respect you enough to spend time with you in a non sexual environment- then you have to demand that for yourself.
There is no one on this planet that doesn’t deserve to be treated with respect and compassion from anyone they spend their time with.
It’s time to stop making excuses for the way people treat us. It’s time to stop blaming society and start blaming ourselves.
If you want to date someone that treats you like a prize then don’t waste your time dating someone who makes you feel like a burden.
“People will treat you the way you let them. There is no such thing as “deserving” respect; you get what you demand from people… if you demand respect, they will either respect you or they won’t associate with you. It really is that simple.”
(via Tucker Max)