The more time I spend thinking late at night before the melatonin kicks in…the more I am convinced that we should all take time to be in a relationship with ourselves.
When I think back on all the time I spent worrying about a relationship in my past… I cringe.
I missed out on so much in life when I was too wrapped up in a relationship to realize what was happening
Of course I learned things from these relationships. Of course I have grown as a person. And of course I don’t regret the relationships…most of the time.
But all that time spent worrying about whether or not he liked me, whether or not he was going to commit, whether or not we were going to make it through the distance… all of that time could have been spent on me. That time could have been spent exploring, hanging out with friends, and getting to know myself.
Are relationships really worth it? Are those mediocre relationships that often leave us wanting more really worth the time and energy that we put into them? For me, they aren’t.
At this point in my life, it’s challenging enough trying to figure out my own wants and needs without juggling the wants and needs of another.
Is it really so bad to spend some time alone figuring out who you are and what you want?
This is the one chance in your life that you get to completely decide what direction you want your life to travel in. Do you want to explore Germany and learn how to make sauerkraut? Do you want to dedicate your extra time and energy to volunteering and impact the lives of others? Do you want to dedicate yourself to your professional life and get the experience you need to take yourself to the next level?
That’s up to you to decide and the best part is…it’s only your decision.
This is the time in your life when you are supposed to be selfish. Embrace the selfishness. Savor every moment spent trying to figure out who you are and what you want. Take chances. Take lots of them. Spend time with people that you normally wouldn’t spend time with. Discover new hobbies. And most of all do whatever it is that makes you happy and don’t regret a second of it.
I almost let a relationship decide which path I would take in life. Maybe it wouldn’t have been that bad, maybe it would have turned out fine…but it wouldn’t have been a decision based upon what I wanted. It was a decision based upon what someone wanted me to do.
I’ve been in a relationship with myself for almost a year now and it’s been the greatest relationship I’ve ever been in.
I follow my dreams, I listen to my heart, and I know what kind of person I am and what kind of person I want to become.
So there may be times when I go to sleep wishing there was someone there to hold me tight as the refrigerator makes its creaking noises. But… I know that no matter where my life takes me I can be alone and feel the happiest I’ve ever felt. And to me, that’s worth more than 1,000 cuddles.