“You’re so lucky. Things like this always happen to you.” – this is what a countless number of people have said to me about my recent dilemma of job offer/grad school.
I am lucky in many ways and in many aspects of my life but I don’t really believe that this is one of them.
There is nothing unique or special about me that set me apart for these opportunities. This isn’t some low self-esteem thing; it’s just how I see it. I wanted to move to London so I scoured Google for hours over Christmas break and talked with over 50 people, some of which I had never even seen in real life. Then, I found the program I wanted and applied for it. Simple as that.
Then, I saw a job listing for the job in Denver online. I read through the description and was immediately drawn to it. Not once did a thought ever cross my mind about not being what they were looking for, or anxiety over the fact that it was in Denver, or a fear that I had never heard of the company so I wasn’t sure I would be a good candidate. None of that ever crossed my mind because when I put my mind to something that I want- I stay focused until I either achieve it, or get rejected. Then I move on.
When I was in high school, I got terrible grades in almost every one of my classes. Something had happened in my life at the time that made me question everything and I let my focus slip away and I did terribly. By the end of that year, my GPA was pathetic and with college applications soon approaching I knew I had to do something about it. I wanted to go to college, so I retook about 3 classes online and got wonderful grades my senior year. Because of the work I put in, I got accepted to every single college I applied to. This isn’t because I’m “lucky” it’s because I saw what I wanted and worked for it.
When I was in college, I wanted to study abroad. I decided one day that I was wasting my life. That is a bit dramatic, but that’s truly how I felt. My school offered the opportunity to study abroad and the fact that I wasn’t seizing the opportunity baffled me. I wanted to go. No one had ever been to this particular uni in Australia before and we had little to no help getting there- but I wanted it, so I made it happen.
I guess the whole point of this is to really stress the fact that I don’t consider myself lucky- at least not in this situation. I put myself out there and I go after what I want. Anyone could be in my position right now. It just takes a lot of rejection, a lot of motivation from said rejections, and unyielding faith in yourself to follow your dreams no matter what.
If you want your dream to happen, make it happen. It’s all up to you.
There are thousands upon thousands of opportunities out there- you just have to be willing to seize them.
Put yourself out there and never doubt yourself.
If you don’t believe in yourself- why would anyone else?