Stop Trying to Get It Together

As a college senior on the brink of entering the real world, it appears that the only subject people can converse with me about is what my future plans are.

HI. HELLO. LET’S TALK ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE. ANYTHING ELSE. I’LL EVEN TALK ABOUT POLITICS IF YOU WANT.

Every time this happens I think back on when I was in high school looking forward and pondering what I would be like as a senior in college. I don’t know why- but it seems to me that there is this longstanding misconception that as a senior in college- I will “have my life together.”

At this age, I’m suddenly an “adult” getting ready to completely support myself financially. I’m supposed to have this fantastic path laid out for me.

Step 1: Graduate and immediately find a great entry-level job
Step 2: Start dating a nice bloke while moving my way up the professional ladder
Step 3: Get engaged
Step 4: Get married and immediately purchase a house
Step 5: Have children, I guess.
Step 6: Buy a dog?
Step 7: live happily ever after

So here I am, almost ready to complete step 1.

I will totally get my life together in the next month, right?

WRONG.

“Stop trying to ‘get it together.’ The biggest lie we’re told when we’re growing up is that as soon as we’re adults, as soon as we’re in college, finish college, get that job, have that steady income, find that special someone, ‘find ourselves,’ find that perfect house, get that retirement fund, have those children, everything will fall into place. Here’s a secret: it won’t. Every new development in your life, good or bad, big or small, will come with its own very special set of challenges. The sooner you accept that, the better off you’ll be.” (via The Thought Catalog)

Graduating from college doesn’t mean that we suddenly get our shit together. Everything doesn’t magically fall into place. I’m still as confused about my future as I was when I was 16.

So here we go:

Step 1: Graduate. And that means passing Math class, Lara.
Step 2: Try to find a job but ya know, this doesn’t always work out the way we want it to so… like… calm down and breathe.
Step 3: Learn how to balance a checkbook.
Step 4: Attempt to understand the tax system.
Step 5: Apologize to my parents for being a jerk for like 13 years straight.
Step 6: Learn how to cook something other than toast.
Step 7: STOP PUTTING SO MUCH PRESSURE ON MYSELF TO FIGURE LIFE OUT.

If we had life all figured out and knew exactly what would happen we’d all be bored.

Thumbs up to this crazy, sometimes frustrating, makes me want to scream, and sometimes laugh, and maybe sometimes cryadventure.

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2 responses to “Stop Trying to Get It Together

  1. Ah, I remember that time well. In fact, I was dating a nice guy (or bloke, as you would say) but I broke up with him because I couldn’t deal with “one more thing on my plate.” So I move forward with the list — as you described — of trying to find the right job, trying to find the right guy, trying to climb the ladder… etc.Funny thing is…. 10 years passed… and that guy I broke up with all those years ago? He somehow found me again. And I quickly realized he was exactly what I needed. He’s now my husband.

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