Allow Yourself to Feel

There’s been more than one occasion in my life when I have desired to be free of feelings and emotions. In my sometimes naïve mind, I often view emotions as being a burden. Something there to bring me down and make life difficult for no reason at all.

Certain situations and happenings affect our day-to-day life. Some things in life are just a struggle. Plain and simple.  It’s just hard. But I have a habit of making it so much harder.

This is something I like to call the “guilt effect.” That name is not creative at all, but hey, I’m not an artist- that’s been well established.

The guilt effect is the idea that you are not allowed to be upset. You are not allowed to be upset about your situation because someone, somewhere else, has a situation worse than yours.

This is a stupid way to think.

Just because someone, somewhere else has a situation that seems harsher than your current situation…that doesn’t just make your situation disappear. It’s still there. You’re still upset. And the more you try to not be upset, the more upset you become.

We have to allow ourselves to feel. We are human. We are essentially composed of emotions and feelings. (I’m not a BIO major clearly.)

“Even if somebody else has it much worse, that doesn’t really change the fact that you have what you have.”

Asking yourself to not experience emotions is like asking yourself to not be human.

Allow yourself to feel. Allow yourself to be upset. Grieve the loss. Mourn the end of a career. Pine for the lost love.

Then move on.

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